My Supports

When I think about the people in my life that I consider to be my support system, a few come to mind automatically.  First of all, my husband.  He is my daily support giver.  He gets to listen to me vent, or anything I need to talk about from my day he is there to listen and to offer advice, opinions, or support.  Secondly I think of my best friend.  Though we don't talk as regularly as we used to since having children, I still know that I could pick up the phone and call her whenever I needed to and she would be there for me.  Finally, I have my family and coworkers.  My family is there for me whenever I need them, though they're not necessarily the first ones I call on.  But it is good to have them.  My coworkers are there for my job related issues, to offer advice and support.  As far as my emotional needs go, my husband is by far my number one supporter.  It is not always the support I think I want, but later see that it is what I needed.  For instance, if I am crying because I broke my pencil (I am pregnant, this happens lol), he is there to tell me, as nice as he can, that I am being rediculous.  He is also the one I rely on most for my practical needs.  He brings home more money than me and helps me with things around the house when I need him to.  Without him, I would feel very alone and as if I didn't have anyone to truly rely on for anything. 

Because he is such a huge support system for me, I chose to imagine my life without my husband.  If we were to divorce what would I need from people.  First of all, I have a job so my practical needs would still get met, just a little more difficultly.  It would be possible that, with two children, I would need some financial support.  I could turn to Jobs and Family Services for help with food (WIC), and could see if I qualified for our state's food assistance program.  This would help with cost of food, which would give me more money to put toward bills.  I could find an income based apartment as well to cut down on rent.  All of these supports are provided from the state.  As for emotional support, I think I would rely heavily on my best friend and my family.  I would need them to help me get through the divorce and to listen/offer advice, etc.  If these supports weren't there for me, I don't think I could make it through a divorce and providing for myself and two children alone.  It is important that everyone have a support system, no matter what type, because I don't think anyone can make it through life alone.